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The Cockweed Mindset: Becoming Unstoppable with Ray 'Cash' Care
In this explosive episode of The Highly Effective Man Podcast, former Navy SEAL, elite coach, and speaker Ray "Cash" Care joins host JP Bolwahnn for a no-BS conversation on what it takes to build unshakable discipline, forge a savage mindset, and lead your life with purpose.
Ray dives into:
- How growing up in chaos forged his mental toughness
- Why pain and suffering are the fuel for growth
- The “Cockweed Mindset”—a mindset that refuses to die or quit
- His 4 F-Bombs for Success: Family, Fitness, Finances, and Faith
- How to lead your family with power and presence
- Why betting on yourself is the most important investment you'll ever make
Whether you're a father, husband, entrepreneur, or man on a mission to reclaim your edge—this episode is your firestarter.
This one is raw, real, and packed with motivation.
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Welcome to the Highly Effective man podcast, hosted by former Navy SEAL turned life and fitness coach. I'm your host, jp Bolwan. This podcast is your resource for unlocking the healthiest, most productive and highly effective man within you. Let's go. Most productive and highly effective man within you, let's go. What's up, guys? Welcome back to the Highly Effective man podcast. I'm your host, jp Bolwan, and today I'm joined by a good friend, a guy who pulls no punches. Former Navy SEAL, he's an elite coach, he's a speaker, an absolute savage Ray Cash Care. You've seen him on TV, you've heard him on other podcasts, but today we're going to dive deep into what men need to know more than ever Discipline, leadership, grit. Ray, welcome to the show, thank you and for those listening.
Speaker 2:I knew JP before he had a mustache, so how old were?
Speaker 1:you when we met man Shoot man, I was. It was back in 96. Probably I was, you know. I showed up to the no 97. I showed up to the team you know with a black eye.
Speaker 2:I know it's a little little brawler, little little scrapper. I remember that.
Speaker 1:But yeah, and I was 19, I was 19 and it's funny, I've got probably like three or four like good memories of you. You know that just kind of like stand out and and one of them was I'm walking down the hall of the team and I don't know if you were on deployment or you were gone or whatever, but then I see this like guy who's you know, just maybe a little bit taller than me, but just like buff dude, great hair, walking down but it looked like you just had like a mission going on and I was just like who is this guy?
Speaker 2:Oh, man, yeah, I miss the old, good old days. Now I'm 53, getting gray. We were having a conversation before and you know I use duct tape to duct tape to stay, stay together, but this is still working. So as long as this is going, man, I'm unstoppable, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, mindset is everything right, oh man, but yeah, the good old days. So one of the questions, and it's just kind of like to open this up, right, but like what's something about you that most people don't know but need to hear.
Speaker 2:That absolutely came from nothing. I came from like a very dysfunctional home. You know, statistically they say that more graduates of BUDS training basic underwater demolition I don't know if you've ever heard of it, it was um comes from young men who come from a separated family and were wrestlers. You know hardship and truth be told. You know, I started with I don't I can't remember what class you were I was 200, but I started with Bud's class 200 and graduated with 200. But a lot of people don't know.
Speaker 2:You know, baltimore native, I mean, I grew up in a very volatile, abusive relationship and I think that's where I forged the mindset. You know. I mean, I think we all have it, people, it comes natural, it comes to natural. Excuse me, but I think others they have to. You know they have to pull out the piece of steel and they have to. You know they have to pull out the piece of steel and forge it and figure it out and that usually comes through pain and suffering and I dealt with a lot of that.
Speaker 2:So, and what people don't know right now? You know they see me on Instagram as sometimes the bad guy, the yeller. But you know we're changing a lot of lives and I will tell everybody I'm not everybody's cup of tea, but I'm a cup of tea. No, it's, it's, I know, you know like, my wife said the same thing. She's like why am I too late now? But no, it's, you know you, I could take me, you, jocko, other people, we know we can all get on the stage and say the same damn thing, but it's going to come across a different way.
Speaker 2:Mine just happens to be a little bit more abrupt and abrasive. But my target audience, the people that seek me out, are the ones that need that. Like. I don't, I don't work off of positive reinforcement, I want negative I. I feed off of the negative because I've learned how to funnel and fuel it and turn it into positivity. If you sit here and tell me I do a good job on things like if, if we were to do one of your CrossFit workouts if you tell me I do a good job, I'm going to tell you you're a freaking liar, because I know you're smashed, because I know what kind of shape you've always been in that kind of shape and I'm in good shape too, man. But there's just, you know, that's your wheelhouse, mine's pushups. I mean, we all have our wheelhouse. But you know I see you cleaning all the time. I'm like god, my arms just I hurt just watching you clean. Man awesome so well.
Speaker 2:My knees are screaming nowadays yeah, I think people just need to understand, like, what you don't know for me is, you know, the suffering is what created the success. And for those who that even know, me, right, I mean, do pretty well for myself, not just from a monetary standpoint, but I, I like who I am now like. For the longest time I didn't, you know, I didn't really like myself in the teams. Um, we, we were, we were jerks in the teams. We're dicks, we're cocky, we were. Yeah, we were young, just young. You know, had pocket full of money, great hair, you had great hair too, you know we were, we were chiseled. You know, when we were younger I mean women, it just yeah, it was awesome.
Speaker 2:But as you get older, priorities change, right, yeah, but the one thing that stayed the constant with me has always been this mindset, and you know the way I tell people if you want to learn how to play chess, you got to master checkers. I'm in the art of mastering the normal to become, because once you master that, then you can move on to the exceptional. You know tim grover says it best. You know, he's like, you know, master average to become a savage. You know. So, so many like that. I to master the, the advanced level stuff, when they don't even have a handle on the basics? Right, you know seven. Performance just the basics. Right, you have a handle on the basics. Right, you know seven points. Performance just the basics. Right. You need to stick to the basics, the muscle memories.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I like it that you mentioned Tim Grover, because I feel like there's a lot of coaches out there and there's a lot of people out there, but it's a lot more of the positive mindset, the more like I'll hold your hand type thing, where you know his book relentless and and those others like, no, like you need to fucking dig in and get after it, right, like there's nothing. But it's not sugar-coated, right. And and that's what I like about you too, is like it's like you're gonna get in somebody's face and you're gonna tell them what's up yeah, mr grover, don't play games.
Speaker 2:He's a friend and a mentor. I mean, I consider for I mean, I mean I can call the guy. I actually have his number. I call him and he picks up, but he's always on. You know, that's what I love about you know the successful he says it's. You know, we've we've heard it the switch. You flip it on, you flip it off. He's like no, I said in podcast, you flip it on and you tape it on what we did, what we do now. I have no off button. There can be no off button. There's no, I don't have days off, even when I'm sick. I figure out a way. That's what creates you know. That's what puts us at a different frequency than other people. It doesn't mean we're better than them, just means right now we're willing to. I honestly think it's suffer more, like I love to suffer. Grover suffers, like you know.
Speaker 2:I opened up for him in an event. It was intimidating as hell. We sat in a front row watching me. But you know, you know what we do we shoot, move and we communicate and we get it done. And I got it done.
Speaker 2:There was some constructive criticism afterwards, cause, hey, I'm always trying to sharpen the blade, right? Yeah, of course, um, and of course you're going to take it. You know you're getting free advice from someone of that caliber who spoke on that many stages. That's great. I mean, hell, look at, look at Redmond, jason Redmond, he just won. Did you see what he just won? No, he won it. Oh wow. Yeah, man, I think it was like 10,000 people, jason won.
Speaker 2:I mean, you know, we walk into a room and we're different. We've all like the individuals that do what we've done in some fashion. We're different, we're not understood A lot of times, we're not liked, but the people that need to understand me and the people that I have to have understand me, do the people that don't. I just don't give a fuck. Yeah, you know, when I go back home, people are like, oh, look at you pulling up in the g-wagon and you and your wife are yeah, man, but I'm at the gym every damn day. Yeah, I'm selling on christmas. You, you don't. You see the rewards of the watches and all that stuff. You don't see the? You know the 20 hour days I've put in. And missing, you know, missing everything.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2:I've missed. I've missed three lifetimes to get where I am right now financially. And now, as I've gotten older, the mindset has switched to hey, how can we stay home and create and and generate monetary value for you know, now I just want to get old and lazy, you know. But old ladies is going to the gym doing jiu-jitsu, hanging out, yeah, and being in bed by 10 o'clock. You know, it's changed, is back in the day. I wouldn't even see you out of the bar until 1030, 11 o'clock and we burn it down.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that's funny, man. Like I think that our lives are pretty similar in a or in a similar trajectory in a way that, like I grew up in a family that was kind of dysfunctional. My stepdad used to beat me, that type of thing and I think that forged a lot of strength in me. It was like one day I was just like no'm done having this and I fought back and you know, ever since that day happened, he never, he never even touched me after that and then just being short guy in the teams smurf crew, you know all that.
Speaker 1:You know it's like there's a lot of similarities there and now with, like the coaching and just trying to be home more. Like I was traveling a lot with CrossFit teaching around the world and you know I have two young girls and I was like man, I just want to be home, you know, and like how can I do this at home and still help people? And you know, that's why, you know, I created the highly effective man and it's just all about trying to help guys, that to get better and just be the best person they can be, no matter what they're doing Right. It doesn't have to be like you're not trying to become a SEAL. You're just trying to be the best person. You can be Right.
Speaker 2:You know I, there are so many similarities. You know I, we got a teams. I want to help people. You want to help people. You know the higher, higher caliber. You know the name that you came up with. You're trying to elevate people to the next level.
Speaker 2:I mean, it's it's, it's just wired in our DNA, you know, and it's a lot of people like always wondered, like why are you trying to help everybody? I'm like, well, my quote you know, or I'll get I don't know if you've ever got it, but I get now we get a lot of negative criticism and I'm like hey, listen, I, I'm open to have a constructive you know conversation with you. But my question is just be ready. I'm going to ask you what are you doing? Because if you're not creating things and helping other people, you know you're either part of the problem or part of the solution, right?
Speaker 2:So you know people, a lot of guys that I know in the teams and our line of work. You know, even afterwards, they'll go into law enforcement or they'll go, you know, first responder some sort, or they want to get into coaching, because for all those years we've had to do what we had to do to help people. Um, you really don't get. You know, when we were in, you didn't get any, any recognition for being a SEAL. You weren't like. I've got like 12 pictures of the guy.
Speaker 1:Like you didn't do all that shit that they do now. No, no, you come from the home, from deployment. There's no parade or nothing like that. It's just like you walk into the team, drop your gear and you know you go home.
Speaker 2:Yep, that was it. No one was waiting for me. You know, I never got the. You know, a couple of the guys got the overcoats from the ladies with you know, you do, they had to get any of that. That was just me. And I just get to the ride to the team and then figure out how I was going to go get to wherever I left I guess I left my truck there or whatever it was back in the day and go figure out where the hell I'm going to live, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, well, I think I mean even like when our younger years, you kind of like that, that team guy that I was like looking to and like you, I can remember you. You were one of the guys that put the trident on my chest. I remember being, I can remember laying onto the bench and just getting it pounded in. I was like, oh gosh, still got so much to where just the little trident pins were bending uh, yep, I got my first one right there hanging on the wall that, yeah, they've.
Speaker 1:I had to actually cut the pins off yeah, and then another memory I have is right there, when you save me, you save me from getting my ass kicked or maybe just getting into a fight, I don't know.
Speaker 1:We went to it was some kind of team guy party and you know, like in virginia beach, it's like you go like team guys hang out together all the time, yeah, and, and for whatever reason, I pissed another team guy off and you know I'm a young guy, new guy, and he wanted to fight me, like there in the party, and then he took me out to like the balcony or whatever, and you're like, no, no, no, no, it's like, it's like cool down, cool down.
Speaker 1:And then we ended up leaving and and I can't remember the guy's name to this day, but maybe a year later, it was like a SEAL reunion on the East Coast and I'm sitting there talking with like somebody else and he comes up. He's like, yeah, you remember me. I'm like, no, I don't remember you. Anyways, it was the guy that wanted to fight me that night but he had still whatever reason, still wanted to fight, but it was you that got me out of there and, you know, preventing me from like getting into trouble that I did, probably shouldn't and that I didn't need at the time I probably, somebody probably did the same damn thing for me, so that's why I did it yeah yeah but that's the cycle.
Speaker 2:It's the cycle of a frog man. You know we do that.
Speaker 1:We get dialed in dumb shit again yeah, so, talking about some struggles and mindset, what would you say is the toughest moment in your life? Not not necessarily like in the teams or in the seals, but but personally.
Speaker 2:That tested you as a man um, I think the youngest was when my father was murdered, at 11, you know, like, and I don't want to get, I don't want to go down the spiritual path because it's, it's newer to me and I'm I'm starting to believe, but I, I, I, I'm a guy that needs answers and it's like, you know, why did you allow this to happen and and this to happen? But yet you'll let this person and this person that are complete pieces of trash live forever. So the death of my father was pretty hard. Obviously, I was young and as we got older, I think the hardest thing for me to deal with another thing just, I'm going to switch. I'm going to switch. I'm going to just switch to a whole different narrative. I know it's going to sound crazy, but the first one was getting into the teams because of the, just the doubting, the. You know the negative talk. You're never going to make it. Everybody said that to doing it, but it was actually then getting out, transitioning into the civilian world. It's hard and it's scary. It's not hard to excel, but you know, when you've been in the teams for 12 years and you go out and you're used to, you can't talk to people like the way you talk to people in the teams and you know they're. You know certain teams have more camaraderie than the others, but I wasn't used to people backstabbing and doing things like that, so it just caused a lot of almost depression. You know, when I got out, I was very depressed, and you know cause. I wanted to do something beside the seal teams. I was like you know, I wanted to try to get into business. I ended up contracting, working with the same guys that I knew that got out of the team. So it's like hell, I'm back in the teams but now I'm making a thousand dollars a day. This is awesome. So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:And then when I transitioned you know moving forward, when I transitioned out of the security industry altogether and said you know what I'm going to? Be an entrepreneur, you know, intrapreneur entrepreneur, and I think probably as far as just being scared shitless that, minus a couple of things that happened in teams that's when I was scared the most because now I didn't know who the enemy was. You know there wasn't. Three square meals, there wasn't, you know, and you know come it was. It was all up he and I.
Speaker 2:I spent a life relying on other people. Yeah, we're badasses. But in a bar fight, when I screened for Green Team, they'd be like hey, you and JP are in a bar fight. You guys are back-to-back, you're surrounded by 15 people. If you get a free shot, do you run out and try to get the platoon or do you stay there and fight? You know what the answer is. You could stay there and fight. You can't leave a man behind.
Speaker 2:But next thing, you know, you wake up after 20, some years. You know you're older and a little grayer and you're looking around and you're going holy shit, there's no one here but me. Now, right, and now you have a wife, you have a son and all the pressures on you versus. You know if we get into a tick, troops in contact and we have to take contact or something. I know you got. You know if you're here or you got my back, I know that I'm okay.
Speaker 2:Now it's like, holy shit, I've got to take up the whole perimeter. I've got to, I've got to. You know, pick it up. And I mean the great thing about you know type A personalities is we pick shit up fast. You know, and you know my biggest fear is just, you know, being average and dying, and and and dying for nothing. So you know, I just said screw it, I'm jumping in, I'm diving in, I'm not even gonna see how deep the water is and and let's crush it, and we're not looking back. Man, I mean it's busy, it's hectic, but you have to learn how to control.
Speaker 2:I've learned as I've gotten older how to control the tone and the pace, like I don't let it control me. Like Whenever you're coaching someone and they're doing crossfit and they start getting crazy. A coach told me once control the breathing, don't let it control you. Yeah, so I'm a control freak. I try to control as much as I can and you think about it. I control the time I get up. I get up to five o'clock. I control the time I go to bed. I control what I, what I eat, which I control, how I lift, which controls you know 99% of unless I get ill how I look. What I can't control is other things. If I get in the car and I'm driving and someone hits me, I can't control that. So I try to.
Speaker 2:You know, the mindset I have is I am going to control as many little things as I can in my life to live as long and as healthy as I can. Right, you know I see people in the gym that are overweight. You know, I used to just be like, oh look, you're fat. But now I'm like I want to know the story of how they got behind. How did you get so far behind? What physical, mental and emotional distress turmoil got you here? Physical, mental and emotional distress turmoil got you here? Or is it just a physical, a medical condition? That who knows? So?
Speaker 2:And, like I said, as I've gotten older, I've really taken a, taken a step back and try to look in versus. You know, I used to just look out and go holy shit, whatever, you know, and I think that's really helped me. Just my tonality, you know you get, you're like I'm like a bottle of wine, even though I've got whiskey. You know, the older, the older it gets, the better it gets right, you know. So I just I think people need to take that approach. You know, like I used to just assume all the time that was. You know that was the thing is the team, and In a SEAL team, we react, we strike hard, strike fast. Cobra Kai right, that's pretty much Cobra Kai was made after us Really was. But then I just had a course where I have Chuck Liddell, who's a good friend of mine, where if you see Chuck, chuck will step back and hit somebody. He's stepping back and he's still hitting and making it happen. I've learned how to step back and still hit versus just running towards it, and I think it's it's something that you know.
Speaker 2:If your listeners are are listening to, hopefully they can relate to some nugget that I'm saying, because we all have self doubt, we self-sabotage, we doubt our self-worth at times. Then we also and the decision making process. It's a three-step process ask, make and take. A lot of times we don't really ask, like what's the problem, we just make a decision and act real quick, like road rage. You know my wife will be driving down the road, give you the finger and I'm like, do they? Like he doesn't look to see, hey, he was really built right and it comes up to a park. You know, and it's happened like three times.
Speaker 1:And you're sitting at the stoplight right next to each other.
Speaker 2:And you're a giant compared to my wife. So it's like come on, babe. So you know, I think my mindset is I've slowed it, even though it still moves very fast, right, going in, kicking in doors. I've learned how to process things much smoother transition, ask, make, take, right. You can't leave vital steps out of anything. Think about, like, just doing a lift, a proper lift, like if you do a clean, if you're teaching, there are steps that you have to do and you don't do it right, there's going to be ramifications. I all I did is I took what I learned from the SEAL teams, you know, combat and all the stuff we used to do and I just transitioned it over into the civilian world.
Speaker 2:Because men, women, we all deal. We all have three battlefields of life. We have the internal battlefield, which is the internal struggle business and home. Right Business and home. That's where you have problems. We all know that, the four pillars of success that we should our teamwork, problem solving, leadership and communication. But then we infuse that with my four F-bombs my family, my fitness, my finances and my faith. And the faith doesn't even have to be believing in him.
Speaker 2:I tell people, if you want to be successful, you have to believe in yourself. Like I have a shirt that I wear whenever I'm on stage. I wear it all the time. It says I bet on me. You know so many people. The mindset they have is like I don't play the lottery when I go to Vegas. I don't gamble, just don't. I'll gamble, I'll get. I'll gamble on myself, I'll play the lottery on myself. I'm not waiting for you know. You know people are like oh man, you know you're, I can't believe you won the lottery. It's, it's luck. You didn't do anything, it's luck. But you can also go out and create your own luck. That's, that's what I do. So that's where I've changed. You know I used to wish, wish and want. Now I make and take change. You know I used to wish, wish and want. Now I make and take. I make and take action. If you start making and taking and and really believing in yourself and focusing on the fundamentals that I talked about the three battlefields, the four f-bombs and the four pillars yeah, I like that, become unstoppable. That's the thing you.
Speaker 2:You can't kill someone that refuses to die you can't. That's why they call they call me the cockweed. I have a shirt that says I identify as a cockweed Tim. Tim Kennedy and Eric Anders called me that. They put me through one of their fucking CrossFit workouts and I, literally laying there on the ground at my you could hear my heartbeat. I was going to die. You know, these guys are like world-class athletes. And Tim pokes me with a stick and I just go like this and he's like you're like a fucking cockweed. I'm like what he's like? You're half garden, half cockroach, half garden weed. You know, think about, step on a cockroach, it doesn't die. You pull that weed right yeah, it comes back on the back.
Speaker 2:So when I speak now, I tell people develop the cockweed mindset I can't. I can't be stopped, I can't be killed. I'll find a way and once you do that, that's what's going to set you above the rest. Right, I'll give you an example. I just got off the phone before I talked to you, the CEO his name's Jeff of Everbowl. You ever heard of Everbowl? It's an IE place. They have about 90 locations in the country.
Speaker 2:My daughter applied for the job. I know the boss, you know very wealthy, hey, I mean the founder of it, right, right, and she showed up. I said I want to. I said I'm going to teach you how to stand above the rest. So she, she, she wore like a nice long dress when other girls look like shit, no offense. She was very, you know filled out the application, did everything and then, after she applied for the job, I had her fill out a thank you. Now she didn't get the job and I was bummed and I asked him why. And he goes. You know what? I'm gonna find out. The only reason she didn't get the job is because they were looking for someone with more hours. But he said in three weeks they're going to ask her for a job.
Speaker 2:So what I did even farther after that and this is what more people need to start doing is when you don't like, let's like case in point you know, I know you do. You do coaching. I don't just pick anybody Like, even if they have the money for my coaching things, I don't. I don't have, I don't have to accept them. I don't have to be your friend, I don't have to, and you don't have to do all your things. But what you should do as a leader a leader who looks out and up you're a visionary is instead of down and in. As I said, my daughter's name is Nyla. I said, nyla, you didn't get the job right. They were like sorry, you didn't get the job. They left. You know it was an email.
Speaker 2:I said, baby, write them and ask why, like so many people, don't take it far enough, they don't go deep enough. Like you know, if there's something, I'll give the example. You have a goal and dream like I want to be an av seal. Why not you right? No, you did it. Why didn't you do it? Well, well, what well, what well. I just thought it'd be hard.
Speaker 2:I'm like, and the thing I I tell people with the mindset is if you know like and these are people I you've heard as well as I have that's their dream, their goal in life. Yeah, and if so, quick to give up on your fucking dreams in life. The real question, jp, the real question is what things are you giving up on that you don't even realize you know like? And that's the mindset and people tell me and I know you've heard to your extreme, you're over the top. So be it. You know the people that need to understand me. They do, and you know why.
Speaker 2:Because the people, every single person I surround myself with, is bigger, better, faster and stronger than me. The people, every single person I surround myself with, is bigger, better, faster and stronger than me. I surround stuff and I don't pick people who are just rich. I pick people who are subject matter experts as schmies and everything they do in their life, because how else am I going to get better? Right, there's only one man created everything, and you know he's. He's up there somewhere. What I do, man, you know we used to wear the eights gear, and you know he's. He's up there somewhere. What I do, man, you know we used to wear the eights gear and you have different pieces of equipment in there.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna learn something from you. I'm gonna put it in that tool bag. I'm gonna learn something from somebody else and when I learn damn right, I'm gonna use it. Like if you give me crossfit tips because I'm lifting again and stuff like hey man, I've got tennis elbow, how can I? You'll tell me I'm an idiot if I don't listen to you. And the problem is so many people are so so quick to dismiss things that they think they they really want. The question is like I'm going to just go back to buds. I keep that kind of keeps being my. My focal point is I mean, 148 of us started. We only had like nine original make it. I mean we had like 50 make it, no, but nine. It's the difference between the want and the need. But I take it beyond that, right, because I'll ask people raise your hand, who wants to be successful, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's not enough. You have to be 1000% obsessed Obsessed. You didn't become a SEAL because you wanted to, because you needed to. You did it because you were fucking obsessed with it. You became a firefighter because you were obsessed with it. You married a woman that you have no business being with. Just like I did no offense, I've seen your wife, and I mean that because you were obsessed with making it happen. I told my wife the first night I met her at the tuna shut up.
Speaker 2:What a monday night monday night battle is there. I told her you're gonna be my wife and she was like biggest pickup line I have. Because here's the thing and this is what I want your audience to know. When you fucking know you know I can't describe it like I knew that I would be a Navy SEAL Now, I knew it was going to take a lot of work. I knew that I was going to become an entrepreneur and make a certain amount of money.
Speaker 2:When you know, and when you infuse that with betting on yourself and like just you know, being the cockweed, refusing to die, refusing to give give up, refusing to fucking settle yeah you can't do man like case in point, you know how I'm gonna end up probably having a heart attack and dying, competing against the frog man, doing something like crossfit with a guy that I know better shape than me, or doing jiu-jitsu, or doing the things that I love because I am 53 as far as paper goes, but in my mind I'm not. I repeat, like people ask me what's your goal and dream, I will be the next jack lelaine, if do you know who that is?
Speaker 2:yeah, yeah hell yeah those that don't know was the juicer. He died at like 86 or 87. He would pull tractor trailers wearing a Sergio Tecatani. He was actually a very well-known chiropractor too. I'm not going to be a chiropractor, I don't have the brains for that, but he just lived the life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know, what's crazy about Jack is that he put out videos that today are still relevant, and you know it's like yeah, it's all To the basics.
Speaker 2:you know. Just, I honestly believe that the world is so fricking complicated that if you want to succeed, you just need to learn how to keep it basic. You mean seven points of performance shooting. I don't know the. You know I was a SEAL, right. I don't know the first thing about ballistics. I'm a gun company. Nine millimeter takes nine millimeter. I don't know the.
Speaker 1:You know I was a SEAL right. I don't know the first thing about ballistics.
Speaker 2:I own a gun company. Yeah, nine millimeter takes nine millimeter, a hundred and some grain. Just lower the grain. You know you want higher grain. I got it, other than that barometric pressure. I wasn't a sniper. Were you a sniper?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2:See, I don't know that shit. If, if it's Whitney, I'm just going to call it an airstrike. There's two ways to skin the cat versus. You know you're talking with this shit over here.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That works for me and what I tell people that especially if you know you've got an audience is is I never dismiss ideas, right. My mindset is I will always, even if, like, if you want to tell me something, I've already heard it, I'm going to listen to it again because you may say something in a way that it just it relates to me, right? Yeah, there's instructors that I want to work with and I'll pay with, and there's instructors that I wouldn't pay. I wouldn't have them pay me to work with them. It's all in how you show up, man, and that's I think that's half the battle. Showing up, like you know. I'm looking at you, you're looking at me.
Speaker 2:Life resume here it is right. Right, there ain't no fat. There ain't a gut down here. There ain't a gut, there's no gut. Yeah, now at 53. And. But I also won't allow people to give me props that I don't need. I'll give you an example. I know I'm talking a lot here. No, it's all good. One of my biggest pet peeves is this you look great for 53. It's as simple as this I either look great or I don't.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:You look great for it. No, don't, don't put me in a category of greatness. Then compartmentalize it with age. It's either wow. You know I want someone to look at me and go holy shit, you're, I get it a lot. You're 53. Yeah, you know. When did you get in shape? At birth? You know I started, I started working out in 10th, ninth grade of high school because I was getting picked on and I realized that, you know, I started building confidence because this is your life resume. I don't care what you say, jp, I've known you for over 20 years. When you first met your now wife, you were not attracted to her personality. You weren't attracted to her. Her mind you were. You were attracted to her resume, which was her body, right hair, the nails that my wife batted, right, that's the initial yeah you got to go in.
Speaker 2:And then the, the levels and the layers, the depth right of of, of the discipline that you know, if she's a like my wife was already a mother and this and that like, and then do your, do your cultures align and do your beliefs align? And then all this, I mean I see couples that get married and one's a Democrat and one's a Republican, one's a diehard, this and like I'm not. I don't want that, like. I want to marry somebody that has the same values as me or will at least be able to agree to disagree on things. But you know it's, it's insane Just how I I see how this country has changed. Think how much this country has changed since me and you were in teams.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 2:We go out in a Connix box and I know what's going to happen You're going to end up whooping my ass. But still I would take my ass whooping. We would. We would probably not talk and then afterwards be like dude, can we just go get a beer and just drop this? Now it's so. It's now it's everybody's trying to screw everybody over. Take the tridents from them. It's like yeah, yeah, I asked.
Speaker 1:I asked a couple buddies about this. I was like you know, back in the day, yeah, you would go out in the conics box, whatever, take care of it. Like nowadays, it's like somebody's getting fired left and right, somebody's, you know, selling somebody else out. You know this and that and it's just like you know, it's not what it used to be, it's still. I mean, guys in the teams are awesome. You know they're getting after it. It's just it's a little bit different nowadays.
Speaker 2:That's for sure. There's no more roach coaches and just going at La Fiesta. Now it's like they have health food and all this. We just you know you work with what you have, you know, right. I mean, just look at the gear that we had. We get a bivy sack and die because you would like sweat to death in the freeze.
Speaker 1:Now they've got like climate control, it's, it's, oh yeah, everybody's got nods, everybody's got like the latest gear they've got oh it's, it's pretty nuts. You know, you look at the amount of technology in the last 20 years that that the platoons have now and it's just like it's mind-blowing and the kind of stuff that they can do now is insane, oh, and I'm not saying we don't have badasses still in our teams.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying we had badasses in the teams that didn't have a fraction of what they have now you work with oh yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:You know, I think now it's very easy. I mean I can shoot a gun around a corner now if I want. It's insane, the things that we have. I can shoot a gun around a corner now if I want with my, you know, with I mean it's insane, the things that we have. So but the message I think to everybody is just the mindset, Like, if I can keep honing in on one thing, it's it starts with, like my, my four F-bombs are kind of like a house right, Think of the foundation and the, the faith, whether that's believing in your.
Speaker 2:You have to believe in yourself. But if you want to believe in a higher power I don't want to get into that with anyone, but you could have a $2 million house, right. But if you have a shitty foundation, what happens to that house? Eventually it crumbles. So we focus on the foundation of believing in yourself.
Speaker 2:Man, Like if you know, you know and I'm a real big one, you know we have this thing in a SEAL teams called a dive buddy. You know I still have a dive buddy. It's my wife, you know she'll. She'll push me to the ledge when I need a little extra push, but then she'll pull me off the ledge when I want to do something stupid, like buy me she's like you know, so I just that's the mentality that I have. I take a lot of the lessons that I learned in teams from the platoons and stuff and I apply to the house. I mean, well, me and my wife are driving. I'll be like, hey, how are we good? She's like clear, right, you know you know she'll. She'll call all sides. You know my daughter, you know she'll be. You know do it. Will we go for walks? You know I'm not gonna get this.
Speaker 1:That's great with the, the sand language but it's.
Speaker 2:My point is is what I've developed and learned, crafted and mastered. I'd be a selfish prick if I didn't pass it on to them Now. Do they use it all the time? No, but I want them to have those same tools in a tool bag if they can. My daughter's 16. She can shoot. My wife's doesn't matter how old. She can shoot, right. So I'd rather them have it, not need it. That not have it. And and or have it or not have it and need it. So it's that simple and that's just how I look at things. You know people are like I can't believe you. You know your daughter does jujitsu. If you're going to attack a woman, you're either going to knock her out and she's going to fall to the ground or you're going to try to take her to the ground. So, yeah, I don't want to. I don't, I refuse to be a statistic or a victim and I refuse for my, my family, the ones I love, and if people can't get in with that, on that bandwidth and I don't need them, you know.
Speaker 2:I mean you, then I don't need them. You know, I mean, I don't know if you've seen the specials and I watch how I talk about this but the sexual predators you know how a lot of times they gauge who they're going to go after. They look at the male role model in the family. I've heard that yeah, it's true, I can't remember his name. There was a thing on it. So, as a man, as a father no-transcript. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all that our job is to become the savage servant. Case in point right, if I was coming at you and your family, imagine this you're sitting right there, okay, right where you're at you're, you're sitting on a park bench and your wife's playing with the kids in the grass, about 15 feet away from you, in front of you. Obviously you're watching them, right, and you see somebody like me walking at them in an aggressive manner. What are you gonna do to do? I'm not saying anything to them, but what would you do?
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm definitely getting up and putting myself in between.
Speaker 2:In between, right, and if we go to battle with each other, see, people think it's because you're a savage. It's not, it's because you're a, a servant. So the savage is what comes out, but the servant is what steps up. Right, I talk about that, the double-edged sword, the savage shirt. I actually have my seal knife over here. That, uh, andy from half face made me. And the point is is, and I don't know how you did it, but you asked her, she chose you, right, you, I don't know, did you take a knee, can you?
Speaker 1:still, could you still take a knee and ask her.
Speaker 2:Right, I asked her. I mean look, I mean it's there's, there's my wife right there. Right, yeah, you asked her, she chose you. And when you, she chose you. She chose you because you have duties and responsibilities as a man that you must do, and society has allowed these men nowadays to not have to perform as much.
Speaker 2:That's, that's unexcelled you know, and that's why certain men stand out in a crowd more than others. You know, it's because and you'll see it a couple of years ago they were playing that knockout game. Knockout game. I don't know if you heard about. The kids were walking around and knocking people out. Yeah, seven years ago there was like five guys in front of me and these couple of this we were in Maryland A couple of guys were like giving them crap. You know, blah, blah, blah. And I'm walking with my wife and always keep her on the inside and this and that and the inside and this and that, and they were talking trash to them. They looked at me and it was about five of them. They said, hey, what's up? And I'm like, let's go, man. And they left me alone and my wife said how come they'll mess with five guys and not you? And the guys were bigger than me. I'm like because they know that I'm ready and it's not. I wasn't disrespectful, I didn't give them like the look, it was just enough. They saw me move her and stuff. I'm ready, I'm ready.
Speaker 2:And most men are not average men, are not willing to deal with a savage servant. They're not Totally. You have to be prepared. That's why I'm doing two hours a day of jiu-jitsu and I still have to go to the gym after this day and I have two hours of wrestling practice tomorrow, which is killing me. I love this dude. That'm gonna tell you the truth, jp.
Speaker 2:I got injured a few years ago. I finally got stem cell, but I became a victim. Hey, I'm getting older, I don't need to be in shape. Blah, blah, blah. And you know mitch aggie. All right, mitch, I don't, I mean I might, but he all smashing frog, big fighter. He was like bro, you got the money, you got the step, so you feel good. He said it'd be like you talking to me. He's like you're fucking hypocrite and it hurt man and like listen when you're wrong. You're wrong, right. Like yeah, it was just like not that much. And he could kick my ass and I was like you're right.
Speaker 2:I said what do I do? He's like you get your ass in here and you start training every day. I mean I've already gotten two stripes. I mean I'm addicted. He says you should be addicted. We're discipline junkies. He's like you know, four stripes, another belt. Four stripes, another belt. He's like you're just keep. You've been doing it your whole life and it your whole life, and I peaked. So after I get you, know he, I'll get my black dot. I'll see you in eight years after that. It's got to be something else. I'm never going to stop yeah neither can you like.
Speaker 2:you'll be 80 years old and fucking doing crossfit and killing people, and that's the thing I guarantee I can put you an event and you're crushing kids half your age. I know you can, I know you will. Nothing is with you. You're still the same guy that won't quit, won't die and won't stop. And when you start that, you start learning, earning and burning every day. There's nothing you can't do. You can afford the expensive watches in this if you want that, but you have to dial yourself in first.
Speaker 1:that's it no, no, I agree with that man. I mean, I think you hit on a lot of things about it's. It's all in the mindset, right, just not quitting. And even, like you know, I feel like a lot of people look at seals and like, oh wow, you know like navy seals, this and that and you know, but really it's, it's the mindset that was created in us, or I don't know if you're like born with it or what, but like you go through some shit and you develop this mindset and it's hammered into you about being in the teams and this and that you're working around other high performing individuals that you can't help but learn to live that way. And then, when it goes away you were talking about this too like a little bit of a struggle of like trying to find yourself and like I'm not around those people. And then that don't, that, don't quit. Mindset comes back up and it's like, ok, I'm going to figure this out, I'm going to make this work. However, however it takes, can it can be challenging, that's for sure.
Speaker 2:I think we all have it. I think we're just a few that have been chosen or lucky or blessed enough to have found that mindset that we have. I think we all have it. It's like the seed. I honestly feel in my head. There's like a seed here and through pain and through trauma and through turmoil, it's like we nick away at it, right, and a lot of people, after the pain stops, they just okay, well, they just if that hurts, I'm not going to do it anymore. But a few of us just, whether it's self-induced or it's external, you know, abuse in relationships or whatever, it just keeps coming. And then when it hits that seed, it just grows.
Speaker 2:And then when and I will tell this right now to someone when you achieve something, no matter how big or small, it becomes addicting. You know, like I tell a lot of my because I have a coaching group too when I tell guys, you know you want to get in shape, give it about a month. And then when you put on something and all of a sudden it just feels a little tighter or mama bear goes, damn. You know it's worth it. Like, think about the pain we went through. All I did was when I got that trident, that's all that mattered, I mean, and that even that sucked. Getting it, you know, jumping in the water, I mean, we were at the same place, getting out and getting your ass handed to. And the question is is is the struggle worth the success? And I'm here to tell you fuck, yeah, it is, yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I don't, no matter how big or small, like, you don't have to be a navy seal. Literally be the navy seal of whatever it is you do in your life. Be the tier one operator, be the subject matter expert, be the person seal of whatever it is you do in your life. Be the tier one operator, be the subject matter expert. Be the person that literally is like and be the best at what you do. Like I've got a buddy of mine next door that works in finance. He's like man, I always wanted to be a navy seal, but he makes a fortune. I'm like, dude, you make a great money. Yeah, I'm like, be the best at it. Like, don't just go. Like, you have a job making huge six figures. You were blessed. There's people that literally have nothing and you're complaining because you wish you were something else. Or you tell them hey, go, try to get a waiver and do it. Well, that'd be stupid.
Speaker 2:Well then shut up man, shut up Right. Most out of what you have. You know, or need to learn and understand. They should be grateful for what they have, not greedy. You know? Um, true, and you know, stop living in another P. The last piece of advice I'll give you is stop living like.
Speaker 2:You know Al Bundy right, all he talks about was what he did back in the day. You know, like, when I get up and speak and I love a lot of the other team guys they'll get up there. They have 45 minutes to talk. They'll tell you who they are for 30 minutes. Like, do your research. This is who I am. This is why I'm here. Let's get to work like. I'm here to work like I love the sean ryan. I love sean. I know sean's real last name. Everybody's like, go on sean ryan show.
Speaker 2:I don't want to talk about what I've done. If you want to talk about what I'm doing or where I'm going, yes, that's not sexy. What's sexy is firefights in this. I don't do, and it seems I didn't have any. I don't lie, I didn't. Yeah, got a little cup, few things in the cia, but we don't talk about it. But what am I doing now? I'm changing lives, working with kids, working with fathers, working with entrepreneurs, you know, doing this, doing that, giving to churches, that's the shit that matters, man, and the trailer, man, that you wear is who made you who you are now.
Speaker 1:You know, yeah, no yeah, it's funny because you talk about that and you know, sometimes I have this internal struggle where it's like, you know, I want to talk about the teams, or you know people. Actually I would say more people want me to talk about the teams than I want to talk about the teams yeah, because they find it fascinating and this, yeah, and and it's like, yeah, like that's a part of my life, but like what I'm focused on and what I'm trying to do right now, like it's a part of that, because there's a lot of lessons from being in the teams and playing high level sports and stuff like that, but it's like that's a part of my life. But then there's also like being a dad there's, you know, playing sports, there's all these other things that have created who I am today. Right, but everybody always just wants to go back to the, the team's thing, and it's like it's there's an internal struggle.
Speaker 1:Internal struggle is like, okay, how much do I want to talk about that and how much is it, you know, necessary to talk about? Right, because there is some valuable lessons, but there's valuable lessons in everyday activities, right. So you said I hear you, yeah, so, speaking of that, right, your husband, your husband, your dad, right, like, what are some of the things that you do when you feel like maybe I fucked that up right? How do you deal with some of those setbacks?
Speaker 2:Well, I guess it depends on the severity of the setback. I mean, are we talking like snapping at a wife? Are you talking about what be more specific?
Speaker 1:I would say, like something that maybe feels like oh shit, I shouldn't have done that. Or like there's a failure in some way, that you're feeling down on yourself like how do you bounce back from that?
Speaker 2:I guess, well, I mean, as as a husband, me and my wife have a great. My wife's my best friend, so you know she sees sides of me that no one else will. Right, I'm not going to go, I'm not going to be crying on her shoulder watching Steelback, nolias and shit. But you know, there are times when you know, I think a true strength, a true man's strength, is when he can be vulnerable, when he can admit mistakes. So I think there's a time and a place for it. But I think when I well, not when I think I know that when I, you know, if I fuck up, if I make a failure, you know I don't mind failing right, and I'm the biggest quitter that you've ever met.
Speaker 2:But I quit the right things, not the wrong things. Or meaning the right things that I quit were like drinking and other things like that, and the wrong things are just throwing in a towel in marriage when things get bad. But for me it's all about communication. You know, when things go bad, a lot of times we bottle it up and then next thing, you know when they actually think we're exploding, we're actually imploding. So for me, when I fail or I do something you know I'm real big on having AARs, you know, daily or weekly report. I know you know what that is, but it's kind of like a weekly review on things and that's really helped me out. But I mean because, listen, man, jp, you know, you know success is failing. Until there's no hesitation Like I'm going to, I'm going to fail, I'm just not not gonna quit on myself. I've lost astronomical amounts of money. That's been hard on investments and things like this. I mean anybody that tells you they don't fail, they don't struggle, they're full of shit, all right, it's. What are they willing to divulge? But you have to have an outlet, not not an out, not not not punching bag and outlet someone that you can, you know, discuss things with and like get outside perspectives and I have a few mentors like that too. But I'm real big on that.
Speaker 2:Because if I bottle it up, man, I start going crazy and then it's, I start what if? And right, why is this guy? Why is that? Yeah, what if, what if? And when you start what if? And you start doubting yourself, I and the biggest piece of advice I could say is nip it in the butt before the self-talk and the self-sabotage and kicks in. That's what I try to do, cause that's what the inner voice is going to take. The inner voice becomes a bitch. So it's all about just controlling the narrative as much as you can. And then, once you do that, I feel that it opens up other avenues, your peripheral opens up wider and it just gives you a different perspective and outlook. And then, when you do that, you know, okay, I'll bounce back. I'm back at it. You know what I mean. I got the whiteboard right there. Believe me, I'm writing shit all the time. What's so great about erasing is you can always write it back up there, right, and I don't sell. That's what I do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, it's true. When you say controlling the narrative, I mean it's our thoughts, right. Our thoughts control everything. And if, if you think negative about something, you're just going to have negative feelings, negative actions, right. If you're learning, like what's the bright side or what's the lesson here, you know and you're going to progress and you're going to have positive action from that, right, Speaking on like discipline, fitness, even high performance. So obviously you train, look at you, right, and you got your shit dialed in. What are, like some of the current, I guess, non-negotiables for you. You kind of mentioned them a little bit, but like that keeps you dialed in and keeps you going.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, everything that I do is I just apply the key component to what is success. It's committing and staying consistent. So I do that with everything. I believe in time phase, training, time phase with everything. So I get up and, let's say, I come up with a nutrition plan. I'll do that for 90 days. I'll get up the same time, I'll eat the same fucking thing, I'll make sure I hit the gym, make sure I'm doing this and I'll adapt. And after those 90 days, I'll do that aar assessment on myself and I'll tweak and modify. And when I'm tweaking and modify, and here's what you need to understand, like, have you ever been hurt or injured? Right, yeah, yeah, I have. Yeah, so you, some, you need to understand that sometimes you have to take one step back, to take 10 steps forward. All right, but I just, you know, I I dive my plan and I plan my dive, right, I plan my dive, dive my plan. You've heard that, um, and I'm always ready for a contingency. Uh, contingency meaning there's always going to be, I'm always going to have to flex, there's.
Speaker 2:There's no such thing as a perfect anything, right, right, like I said, how do I stay disciplined? I'm a control freak. I control what I put in my body, what I what comes out of my body, to a point right, you know my going bathroom. I control what I wear, who I surround myself with and I control my attitude and the effort that I put forth. Because to be a part of a team, a real team, there has to be trust, effort, attitude and a mission. Right, you got to trust in yourself, trust in your brothers, trust in whatever the obstacle is that you want to accomplish, trust that you can do it. Trust is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to build up. Effort Just don't put a, don't put a number on it, don't cap it out. Give me everything you got.
Speaker 2:Attitude there's two kinds. You either show up with a good or bad. Nothing will open and close the door faster in business and life than a good or bad attitude. And M is mission. Mission is growth. You figure out what that is and once you know, once you hone that in and you become like team, team Ray, that team care, we're just unstoppable. I keep using that word. What's my favorite word? Like we're unstoppable.
Speaker 1:Yeah, dude, it's a great word.
Speaker 2:Making moves. We're making money. We're making a difference. That's what it's about.
Speaker 1:Yeah for sure. Now what about the guy that says I don't have have time? What do you say to that guy?
Speaker 2:I tell him he's full of shit, go to bed earlier, get up earlier. I mean, the thing is, people that don't have time, what they really don't have. What you have to ask yourself is you're right, you don't have time? You don't have time to keep doing what the fuck you're doing? Right time is the most precious commodity we have. It's unknown. You know. We all know that we're going to get older and we're going to die, but we don't know when.
Speaker 2:So my thing is every day, change the narrative. I honestly feel that the fitter you are, the longer you live. So you're telling me you can't put 20 minutes a day into that. I guarantee I could write a journal with them for two weeks and I could literally free up two hours of their day. It's, it's all about. You know sequence and transitioning. You know this right, how we fill in the house. You just have to have flow. Most people don't flow. They don't, they don't work effectively. They go here, then here and here, where it should go here and here and here and here and here. And you, you say you're wasting time, you're not being efficient, productive. So that's where we're at and that's what we do. And um, you know, I'm always.
Speaker 2:Like I said, that's where it comes back to sharpening that blade of the savage and the servant. You've got to sharpen it, right? You know the analogy a samurai warrior will sharpen his sword and hang it on the wall when he's done with it, but guess what he does every day? He continually sharpens it, even when no one's using it. And one time his wife asked why do you sharpen your blade if you're no longer a warrior? Because because one day I may need it, but I don't know, if I don't look at it, if someone else used it. So you always have to stay ready. Like shooting is a perishable skill, I go to the range. I haven't been a seal since 1990. I got out in 2004 I mean, that's 20 years ago but I still shoot, you know. So I'm ready. Look, just in case you get crazy. I'm ready, ready to go, just in case someone comes. I'm ready. Let's look at my phone right there, man, I'm ready.
Speaker 1:Hell yeah so that's awesome, dude man that's what I got.
Speaker 2:That's who, that's.
Speaker 1:That's how we get shit done yeah, that's great when when it talks about leading your family, right, we get tired, we get stress, sometimes we get distracted yeah you know how do you keep going I, I keep going because I know where I've come.
Speaker 2:I know how far I've come. You know, and I think you, just you set simple goals and rules. Like case in point, what is one of the biggest stress factors that families have in a house? Money. Don't talk about money in front of your children. You know I don't yell at my wife in front of the kid, I mean the others, the other things. There's times and places and segments for it.
Speaker 2:You know my daughter goes to bed at a certain time. That's when me and my wife will talk, but if it's super negative, it'll wait because I don't like to go to bed angry. I don't want to bed angry and then die. You know I want to go to bed like the perfect world'd have sex with my wife every night before I went to bed. Perfect world For a certain time. That don't happen when you've been married 20 years, right, but but seriously, I would. But yeah, it's.
Speaker 2:How do you deal with it? By knowing how far you've you've come. That's that's what I do, like case in point, like if things are bad, I've been through worse. You, that's that's what I do Like case in point, like if things are bad, I've been through worse. You've been through worse. I mean the story we're talking about you. There's a reason why you're still here. You know, after what happened to you and what's happened to me, I mean we're here for a reason. So what is that reason? We may never know, but our job is to seek and search every day until we get as close as we can to it. You know, like we're chasing the pot of gold, we're never going to hit it, but we can sure have a fun ride doing it.
Speaker 2:You know, and I want to create more success and generational wealth for my family and to help out with churches and help people and kids. And I'm not going to stop, man, and I don't care. If you know I tell people get on the Ray Cash Care Trainer, get run over, because I'm not going to stop, man. And I don't care if you know I tell people get on the Ray Cash Carrier Trainer, get run over, because I'm not stopping. I'm not going to stop. You know I won't. I love it. I can't. I'm not, I can't. I just I owe it to everyone that's supported me through the years and I owe it to myself, to. You know, I'm not going to be a quitter of me, I won't do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I love it, dude. That's a powerful message, you know. Just not stopping and believing in yourself, betting on yourself, Like that's huge, you know, because if you can't do it, who else is going to do it right?
Speaker 2:I'm telling you they're not. They'll say they will. They're waiting and watching and wanting you to fail to see how you react. I fail, I wipe myself off. Sometimes I don't even dust myself off, I just get back up. Let's go again. They get punched in the face. All right, you know, if you keep hitting me with a jab, if I don't cover, what's going to happen? Eventually it's going to put me down, or I'm going to learn from it. Right, I listened and I learned. I quit on the, you know, quit on myself. So I've got to do my things. You see a little movement that you know. Baby, come on.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, Speaking of jabbing and covering, I remember the smokers, that tall dude that you was, that you you got put up against and he had some length on you and he was like he was basically jabbing, jabbing and then you just came in with this overhand right and just knocked him out. That was such a great memory, that's right, 50 call.
Speaker 2:They call me 50 Cal afterwards, whoa, but that's. That's how you gotta be, man. Listen, we're no strangers to being outgunned and over man and oversized, but how do we still win? It's the power of just knowing what you're capable of. Taking off the governor and just fucking letting loose man. That's what you got to do. People just live each day to the fullest. That's what I do. I mean, when I get off the phone with you, I'm gonna go work out. All right, I got well, I got a bunch of shit going on with work right now, but after that working out, you know, tomorrow I've got my wrestling and then sunday we got our church. It's yeah, I'm just going to be the best version of me as long as I can do it, until I can't do it anymore and then hopefully I've made such an impact, you know, I'll pass the torch over to someone else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, for sure I know you're. I mean, I've I've seen some of your videos and and everything that you're doing and it's it's inspiring's inspiring. You know, and even somebody that's you know lived a similar life that it's like I listen to you talk and I'm like dude ray's firing me up. Man, I love it and you know it's. I think, when you have that kind of impact and you know and I'm sure you've had this happen to you where, like people, they say that you know you inspired me, or you know you've done this to me, or where, like people, they say that you know you inspired me, or you know you've done this to me, or because of you said this or this, whatever, like I, I've now done this. It's like such a good feeling, like as a coach, as a man, where you've been able to help somebody transform, whether it be physically, mentally, whatever it is it's. It's such a good feeling and something that I chase and that I'm after, that I'm like I want to help as many men as possible, because I think there's a big struggle.
Speaker 1:I think that you know a lot of guys. They struggle with business, family, fitness and just trying to juggle it all Right, right, and that's the whole point of the highly effective man. And then talking about you know, surrounding yourself with other people, like that's the whole point of the community is because when I left the teams, that was the one thing that I missed the most was being around the guys, the, the talking shit, the, the having, you know, the fun, just the conversations like we're having right now and just the good times. And having a brotherhood is, I think, an important piece to your success. You were talking about like you surround yourself with guys that are more successful than you because they're going to push you Right, and I think that's super important, right, and getting that message out and just being with people like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:Cool, I've got a couple last minute questions here. So more like rapid fire, so like what's the hardest workout you ever done? Hardest?
Speaker 2:workout I've ever done the Viking. What's the Viking Uhiking? Uh, it's a 5 000 meter row, 150 tire swings with a 20 pound sledge each arm mile and a half run back to the hammer hammers, back to the, to the row. And I did that in bogram at high noon. It killed me.
Speaker 1:Nice, I'll have to look that one up. I like that.
Speaker 2:It's actually we made it over at the agency. I've got it. If you want it, I've got a. I've got a couple of them like that I can send you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that'd be great. Send it over. I'll have some of the guys in the community do it yeah.
Speaker 2:Greg Klein created it. I don't know if he was still at the team when you were there, greg, or you Dodge. Greg Klein, who's a SEAL, did it at STD, yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, what drives me nuts is that when I was in Virginia Beach, right, like obviously a lot of the team guys like we all hang out a lot and we get to know each other really well, but then when I left Virginia Beach we didn't have, like, social media, we didn't have all that stuff. I left in 2002 and it's like I lost contact with so many guys. And you know, names come up, faces come up. I'm like man, I know this guy from somewhere but I can't, you know, place him. And it drives me nuts. Yeah, but favorite quote or mantra man in the arena Nice. Man in the arena Nice.
Speaker 2:Man in the arena by Teddy Roosevelt.
Speaker 1:Hell yeah, that's a great speech for sure. What would you say is your best lesson from failure?
Speaker 2:My best lesson from failure is that there's always tomorrow. I failed so hard, I mean, there's been times I've failed so hard. I mean there's been times when I've literally wanted to just throw in a towel. I've failed so much. But you just get up tomorrow and it's a fresh start. Man, Every day is a blessing.
Speaker 1:I love it. What's one thing every man should do before 7 am? 50 push-ups, nice A book. Every man should read the Bible. Yeah, this is great, man. Well, ray, I appreciate it. Man, you and I, we go way back. Oh yeah, man, I have some great memories with you and it's awesome to see what you're doing now. You and I, we go way back. Oh yeah, man, I have some great memories with you. It's awesome to see what you're doing now and seeing the impact that you're having on people. I see clips here and there and then we catch up here and there, which is awesome. It's just great to actually get this, to make it happen. And you know, and just see you, we're both a little bit older, but still kicking ass, and I love it. Dude, this was amazing. And if you could leave, you know every man that's listening to this, right, everybody that listens to this podcast what's one message that you would say that they need to hear today? What would it be?
Speaker 2:Believe in yourself because you can do it. That's it, oh yeah, so simple man. The power of belief will crush all.
Speaker 1:Nice, all right. All right, guys, if this episode fired you up, listen to Ray, do the work, don't quit, bet on yourself and if you like this episode, share it with somebody that you think needs to hear this. Thanks for listening to the Highly Effective man podcast. I'm your host, jp Ray. Thank you again. I love it. Great to see you, ian. I love it Great to see you and let's go. Thank you for listening to the Highly Effective man podcast. If you enjoyed or learned something on this episode, do me a favor and share this with somebody who you think needs to hear it. And one last thing if you want to work with me as your coach to help you get fit, be more productive and, in general, just be the most effective version of yourself, you get fit, be more productive and, in general, just be the most effective version of yourself, head over to my site, higherlevelcoachingco. Once again, that's higherlevelcoachingco and schedule a call with me there. Thank you again. Let's go.